So lately I’ve been thinking about the concept of “drama” (due to recent events in my life). I figure in today’s terms it is defined as a situation that has been blown out of proportion along with the parties involved getting emotionally distressed over it. But how deep or surface does that really go?
I’ve noticed that a lot of people just pass off something they don’t want to deal with as “drama”. Yes, I do agree, there are the cases where people cause a scene or take their issues to a public level. That is what I consider real drama. See Shayna’s post about her band member…that’s a model case. But what about issues between two people on a private level? For example: Last week I confronted a friend, through email, about her recent behavior toward our relationship. She was basically acting strange, silent, and distant. I simply wanted to know what was going on - although, me being me, I may have dressed it up in words a little bit. Nevertheless, she referred to the email as “negative” and “drama”. We were able to work things out though.
Now, was I being dramatic in trying to sort things out between us by hitting the issue head on, in a direct manner? Or was she just afraid to face the real issues and project her feelings onto me? I see this in the work place as well. Many managers I see will avoid confronting their employees because they don’t want to cause “drama” in the work place. Resentment builds up between coworkers and that’s when the real situations take place. I think avoiding things causes a snowball of tension and resentment. I see it all the time.
Plain and simple, my new definition is this: drama is the failure of effective communication between two or more people.