Friday, October 21, 2005
The Snow White Theory
This past summer I came up with a concept I called the Snow White Theory. For the last couple years I became obsessed with trying to figure out how long it takes humans to become, well, human. My questions were pointed towards the duration it takes people to learn things like compassion, guilt, and selflessness. I also wondered if these traits were innate or learned. So, my answers to these inquires were met with the Snow White Theory, stating that who we are is directly influenced by the people and environment around us. For example, as for the name-sake of the theory, look at the character of Snow White from Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. In the story's most simple non-symbolic terms, Snow White is a bland, innocent, and naive person. When you add the other characters, such as the Seven Dwarfs, they somewhat color her world with some dimension and personality (thus them having a human attribute). Not to say we are as basic or boring as Snow White, quite the contrary. I believe we all contribute something to one another. And with that belief I come to the conclusion that from birth, the way we react to situations, the virtues we develop, and emotional maturity we gain, is all influenced by the people that surround us. All of this is nothing new, but how valid is this concept and how deeply are we affected by the individuals that shape our world?
The reason I am, again, revisiting this idea, is because my friend Tiffany added the concept of time to this equation. She simply stated (without even knowing my theory, or us even having any conversation on the subject) "I think it's all about timing. My husband tells that he thinks that it's fate that we are together, and I just laugh. I figure the time was right, meaning that I was emotionally ready to get married. 5 years ago there's no way I could've married him." The nonchalant, "as a matter of fact", shoulder-shrugging way Tiffany said it, really made an impact on my view on how we interact with one another. Do we really move step by step from person to person? Do we somehow evolve as we meet these people? Of course we do, but the question is do we, at the right time and circumstance, meet people that are suitable to our emotional growth and need? And is this somehow planned or freewill (this question was brought up to me by my form Lit Professor, Julie when I had let her in on my subject of obsession. I didn't put much energy into thinking about that factor, but it's seemingly making sense to ask that).
I am going leave here for now, but I sure there will be another epiphany that will come about concerning our humanity.
Illustration taken from: http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/illustrations/sevendwarfs/newelldwarf.html